In this day and age, everyone is searching for happiness. You know, like that one movie with Will Smith, The Pursuit of Happyness? Why is it so hard to find happiness these days? I would assume that it’s been like this forever. Are you looking for happiness in an obviously unhappy society?
I am no professional at finding happiness, nor am I some type of happiness guru BUT I have found that this order of doing life definitely helps when things get a little gloomy and too centered on me.
Sitting with God
Over the years of dealing with different situations, I found that I needed to figure out what happiness was, just like the next human being. I have a specific story that is fairly recent. I was having some one-on-one time with God one night. I was reading and praying, reading and praying and then I became so sad, heartbroken and devastated. I didn’t understand why. I was having time with God, why in the world would I be feeling such sadness? Everything was fine in my own personal life, but as I sat there and realized what I had just prayed (Lord, who do you want me to pray for?), I was praying for someone specific. Let’s call this person R. While I obviously didn’t understand and couldn’t believe what exactly was happening, God was speaking to me very clearly. He was letting me know that R was dealing with something that was causing her a lot of heartaches. So as I sat there at this point crying and literally feeling as though all the air had been knocked out of me, God told me to take action. No, He didn’t audibly say, “Sarah, do this.” He nudged my heart. You see, He was already working way before this. Weeks prior, I bought some general blank greeting cards that I figured I would have “just in case”. So these cards were sitting on my desk while I prayed, cried and wondered what was going on.
Doing for Others
I asked Him what He wanted me to do. He told me to take one of those cards and start writing. I am being 100% honest with you… I have no recollection of what I wrote down in that card (not in a weird, mystical way) because I know for a fact that it wasn’t me writing to R. It was something that God specifically needed to say to this person. So I wrote it, and I mailed it. That’s right, SNAIL MAILED THAT THING.
For anyone who doesn’t know or forgot what snail mail is, it’s when you take a letter or card, put it in an envelope, slap a stamp on there, stick it in your mailbox for the postman to pick up and deliver to the person you are writing to. This usually takes at least one or two days depending on holidays and all that good stuff.
So, I sent the card and went about my life. Never called or texted the person who I wrote to, simply sent the card and let it be. A few days later, I get a call from this person, no mention of the card at all, just a heartbroken person needing me to be with them.
Come to find out R had just been hit with an unexpected breakup. *jaw drops* Let’s rewind for a second. I didn’t know that there were any issues in the relationship or that this could even be a possibility. It was a shock even to me. HOWEVER, it was not a shock to God.
In my time of prayer that night, this break up was taking place clear across town. I was going through the pain with this person without having been sitting right next to R.
After the relationship ended and during helping with the moving out process, I saw the card that I had sent to this person hanging on the refrigerator. I was surprised. R said that it was the day after the break up that they got the card in the mail. The person who did the breaking up apparently thought that R, who received the card, had told me what had happened. Again, God is my witness, I had no knowledge of what was happening between the two of them until even a few days after the actual break up. God sent the card at EXACTLY the right time!!
Pursuit of Happiness is Over
Do you know how excited I was to hear all of this information and take it in? My God used me in such a critical time of this person’s life without me even realizing it. He literally heard my prayer of “Who do you want me to pray for right now?”, put them on my heart so heavily that it moved me to write in a card to send out the night of the break up WITHOUT having talked to this person, and R receiving it in just the right time to have the heart breaker see it.
THIS! This is what happiness is about. Listening to God. Hearing and seeing His heart for His kids. Him using His willing children to bless His other children. If that ain’t love, then I don’t know what the heck is! He loved R so much (and still does) that He made sure to let her know that she knew that she was not alone in this hard time.
Did it stop the break up from happening? No. Did it hurt R? Well of course. Did I want to cause hurt and pain to the other person? I am human, so yes (and despite that, God still used me… a flawed person.. SMH).
BUT, in the midst of the shattering pain and confusion, HE was right there with her! He was with me at the exact same time, letting me in on the hurt that was being felt. HE WAS PRESENT!! Although it hurt, do you want to know another amazing thing? R came out so stinkin’ strong! God allowed her to see why things happened the way they did, and she truly did see that she was better off.
This is what CONSISTENTLY brings joy and zeal to my heart; seeing God move in the lives of others, and Him allowing me to have a front-row seat to Him unleashing His caring heart on them. *heart emojis* *dancing lady in red dress emoji*
Like spending time with anyone else, God wants you to sit with Him to hear from Him. He might not always want you to do something. He just might want to tell you something. The beauty of having time with Him is that He wants to talk to you. Honestly, this is just one of many situations that I have either heard or personally experienced with Him. His heart is for His people, and when your heart is willing to hear from His heart, GUESS WHAT? What’s on His heart, He puts it on your heart! Are you available and willing to allow your needs to be put aside and be used for others so that ultimately you are blessed and find happiness through watching God navigate things?
Lots of people strive to find happiness within themselves, but that will only lead to selfishness, bitterness, and anger. We are so capable of doing so much regardless of what we do right or wrong. We are supposed to love God and love people. IN THAT ORDER! If it’s out of order, you can expect that people will continue to walk around aimlessly looking for the next best thing.
Do you want to find real happiness? Sit alone with God (no phone, no social media). Just you and God. Ask Him how He wants to use you. Take action RIGHT AWAY! Watch Him make moves in others’ lives while transforming your selfishness into an overwhelming love for Him and others.
He is looking for the available and willing, not qualified.