Have you compared yourself to someone lately? Have you seen someone doing something or having something that you wish you had or were doing? I know for a fact that I have multiple times probably just within the past couple of days. My joy has been stolen at times due to comparison.
“We won’t be distracted with comparison if we are captivated with purpose.” -Bob Goff
We each have such a great purpose that we should be focused on, but half the time we’re looking at how everyone else is doing, and it looks like they’ve got it all together. I’m going to let you in on a little secret…. they don’t so stop looking at them.
When we allow comparison to creep in, we allow it to damage our self-esteem, our confidence, our purpose, and our joy.
We see other people posting about their amazing vacation they saved up for, the amazing proposal that was just displayed in a beautiful location, a relationship that always seems so fairytale-like, a friendship that seems unbreakable, blah blah blah.
We think the grass is greener on the other side and then we become dissatisfied with where we are in life. We become discontent and unhappy about our life.
Here are some tips on how to avoid comparison:
Taking a Social Media Break
When it comes to social media, the comparison is almost the “norm”. You see someone wearing something and then you want it for yourself. If you don’t have it or can’t have it, then you feel less than that person… but you’re not. Do you wish that you could have flawless skin like them?? It’s called filters and makeup, baby! You want the body they have? Well, that’s just a matter of moving around and eating better. That relationship is soooo romantic and beautiful, isn’t it… do you think they don’t disagree with each other the rest of the time?? Trust me, all of the things we see are again JUST THE GOOD STUFF. Taking a step back from social media as a whole will help you understand that not everything is as it seems, and help you start living in your reality.
Money and Things are Temporary Pleasures
Having any amount of money or things brings only temporary happiness. Seeing others with the newest gadgets or the newest cars can cause a sense of disappointment for some people. Others who go on vacation regularly seem to be the happiest of people. Yes, these things are great and fun to have and do, but then what? It fades… the vacation is over, the gadget becomes outdated and then the unhappiness sets back in. Instead of comparing where you are financially or material-wise, focus on the relationships that bring true happiness and fulfillment. Enjoy the people and time together as opposed to the ever-fading money and toys.
Take Inventory of What You Have
Instead of wasting time wanting what others have whether that’s relationships, outfits, career status, vacations, financials, etc, LOOK AT WHAT YOU DO HAVE. Do you have a big amazing family? A small intimate one? A wonderful significant other? Fur babies? A roof over your head? Food on the table? Time with those you love most? Guess what? Those people and things that you have and that are YOURS are just as amazing as the next person’s. Don’t be consumed by what others have and don’t allow what you have to be disqualified as anything less than what they are… blessings that are JUST for you! Intentional relationships will outlast any material thing that someone strives day in and day out to attain. Focus and be grateful for what and who is specifically in your life, and live that out wholeheartedly. Maybe one day, you can ENCOURAGE someone else to love others the way you do.
Let’s stop comparing ourselves to the next person. Like Bob Goff’s wife says, “Keep your eyes on your own paper!” Don’t allow other people’s way of portraying their life cause you to see your life as anything less. We are all on the same playing ground. Love what and who God gave you, and steward it all well!!