Who’s one person you miss most during this quarantine deal?
What’s one thing you wish you could still be doing with them?
Do you feel like you took your relationship with them for granted?
I took for granted those meetups I could have had with friends before all of this.
I miss being able to go get coffee with someone and just chat.
When I think about what I miss most since all of this isolation stuff is community.
The community with my family as a whole unit, and the community with the few friends I do keep in touch with.
While at home now, I realize how many other relationships I could have been connecting with.
But I certainly miss my family and those close friends right now.
Staying Connected to Family
I live 4 hours away from my family as it is.
So now that I can’t drive that 4 hours to see them, hug them and just physically be with them, is unfortunate, to say the least.
I’m super close to my immediate family and parts of my extended family.
I usually go and visit family when I’m in town, but the last trip was canceled due to the Coronavirus.
I think the worst part of it has been that I’m not able to see and hug my grandma (because let’s face it.. Grandma doesn’t have video chat lol) and hug my 6-month-old nephew!!!
My family and I thrive off being with each other.
Video chats and phone calls are what we’re limited too right now, and we’re making it work as much as possible. But there’s something different when you can be with your family even if you’re just staring at the same bonfire while sitting next to each other.
I don’t want to get emotional, but it’s been hard.
I know that’s been the case for so many of you guys too, and I just want to say… you’re not alone.
Family has been the first community most of us were a part of.
Some of us are blessed to be in the same state, city, or even HOUSE as our family.
For those of you who aren’t, stay strong. We’ll get through this!
Continue the video chats and phone calls until this is all over to be sure you’re staying connected in some way.
I think something we can do while we wait this out is make a list of people we want to visit.
I’ve made this printable “After COVID-19 Fam Visits” planner page for you!
I think writing out a list of family members you want to visit and plan meetups with will help make this whole thing, HOPEFULLY, go by a little faster.
Staying Connected to Wise Friends
I have only a few friends that I’m in frequent contact with.
Something I’ve realized with my relationships with my friends is that I sometimes take them for granted.
During this quarantine time, I felt led to do Zoom or phone call interviews with some of my friends that are wise women of faith.
At first, I was hesitant because, how do you interview someone you know a decent amount about already and relate to through your walks with God?
You just do it lol
So I did it, guys! I scheduled 4 interviews in the 1st week of April.
Now let me preface to say, I’m that person who over analyzes everything.
I’m nervous to have conversations with people because I feel like I’ll get into an awkward position where I’ll have to come up with something to say… so I try to avoid them as much as possible.
So this was pretty nerve-wracking for me.
The first interview that I had was with a friend of mine from years ago.
-Is very social
We hopped on the call (we haven’t talked in almost 8 years), and we conversed for a couple of hours- EASILY.
The desire that she has for God is different than mine. That didn’t matter though.
We discussed things, talked about different perspectives in our walk of faith and bounced ideas off of each other.
The conversations I had with friends were about the same length, except for the last one.
The last conversation I had lasted 5 hours! 5 hours!!!
When I was done with all of those interviews with those God-fearing, God-loving women, I was physically tired (only had one real meal for 3 days straight) but I was overflowing with joy, encouragement, inspiration, love, excitement, and fulfillment.
It was an overflow of wisdom and a divine outpouring of Christ-centered fellowship.
I didn’t realize my desperate need for fellowship until those interviews took place.
WISE friendships are so important guys!
If you would have asked me if that’s how I felt about friendships a year ago, I would have had completely different advice!
I think what the most important thing to look for in your friendships though, is their love for God.
If their love for God matches the fruits of their labor, I’d say trust GOD to grow and nourish those friendships.
The Importance of Community Overall
We were not built to be alone and in isolation.
I know some of us are okay with being alone, but mankind was created FOR COMMUNITY.
I listened to this message a few weeks ago about the importance of reminding each other to live in the power, presence, and love of God.
If we’re believers and we KNOW the power of God, THAT’S ONE THING.
But to KNOW it and to LIVE it, are two separate things.
We need to constantly be reminding the body of Christ to tap into the love of God, the presence of God and the POWER of God in our lives and the lives of others.
Yes, we can read our Bibles on our own time, but discussing the things of God together, is what we need to be doing as well.
Ephesians 3:17-19 says;
17…so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, TOGETHER (emphasis added) with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
We were made to be social and connect with others, grow from and with others. “As iron sharpens irons.”
The more we’re connecting with others, the more we’re doing a few things.
- We’re eliminating the grounds for depression. We aren’t sitting in our sorrow and singing the blues. We’re able to speak to someone OUTSIDE of the situation we may see as the impossible to be free from… or even our very own mind. We allow someone to shine light in those dark places that no one has ever been able to touch. We allow someone else to walk with us through whatever it is we’re dealing with, resulting in us not being alone.
- We’re allowing others to be heard. The ideas, wisdom, and stories that others share can be something that God uses for us to grow. Sometimes He speaks in ways that we don’t expect. One way that He speaks to me, is through His people. So connecting with others who have a heart devoted to Him, is another way to connect with God and grow in your relationship with Him.
- You’re allowing room for a relationship full of intentionality. When the door is open to connecting, the relationship grows and begins to flourish. Then you become a part of the community that God’s growing for His Kingdom purposes. Every move, thought, and conversation becomes who God is creating you to be. The other person is also being grown into the person God is calling them to be SIMULTANEOUSLY.
This message from my home church was hitting so many great points on the importance of community.
We all need each other. Though it may be hard for us at this time, let’s look forward and start planning gatherings.
During those gatherings, let’s plan on being present, praying for one another, reminding each other about the love, presence, and power of God and growing in intentionally in our relationships.
We may not be able to see the end of this all right now, but take heart, HE’S overcome the world!