Do you ever struggle with showing your spouse how much you appreciate them? Here are some simple ways to show your appreciation today.
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HOW TO SHOW YOUR SPOUSE APPRECIATION

PRAY FOR THEM

THIS MAY NOT SEEM LIKE IT’S A WAY OF SHOWING APPRECIATION, AND YOU’RE SOMEWHAT RIGHT… IT’S NOT SHOWING APPRECIATION TO THEM AS MUCH AS IT IS SHOWING APPRECIATION FOR THEM TO GOD.

COMPLETE SURRENDER OF THEM TO GOD

IF WE ACCEPT THAT EACH PERSON, INCLUDING OUR SPOUSE, IS A GIFT FROM GOD, OUR RESPONSE SHOULD BE THAT OF SURRENDER.

 NOT SURRENDER IN I CAN’T DEAL WITH THIS, PLEASE TAKE IT LORD” (ALTHOUGH THERE MIGHT BE DAYS WHEN WE UTTER THOSE WORDS), BUT MORE OF “GOD, YOU GAVE ME SUCH A PRECIOUS GIFT IN THIS PERSON AND I’M NOT SURE HOW TO HANDLE IT WELL OR TAKE CARE OF IT THE WAY YOU’D LIKE ME TO, SO PLEASE TAKE IT BACK AND DO IT WITH IT WHAT YOU MAY.

WHEN WE ALLOW COMPLETE SURRENDER TO TAKE PLACE BETWEEN US AND GOD THROUGH PRAYING FOR AND SURRENDERING THEM OVER TO GOD, THAT’S A BIG SIGN OF APPRECIATION FOR THAT PERSON.

ALLOW GOD TO PREPARE THEIR HEARTS FOR YOUR WORDS

DURING THIS TIME OF PRAYER, IT’S ALWAYS A GOOD THING TO PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING REGARDING THIS PERSON (NOT ALL AT ONCE, BECAUSE YOU WILL GET OVERWHELMED… DAY BY DAY).

YOU ALREADY KNOW THAT THEY’RE A GIFT, BUT YOU ALSO WANT THEM TO RECEIVE WHATEVER YOU SAY TO THEM ABOUT YOUR APPRECIATION FOR THEM.

ASK GOD TO PREP THEIR HEARTS FOR YOUR WORDS. 

ASK GOD TO GIVE YOU THE RIGHT WORDS IN HOW HE WANTS YOU TO SHOW APPRECIATION.

ASK GOD TO SHOW YOU THE BEST QUALITIES ABOUT THEM

ASK GOD TO HIGHLIGHT THOSE AMAZING QUALITIES ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE.

IT’S EASY TO BE BLINDED BY ONLY THE NEGATIVE THINGS BECAUSE YOU’RE WITH THEM 24/7 (QUARANTINE LIFE).

BUT PRAY THAT GOD WOULD GET RID OF THOSE BLINDERS AND POINT OUT THOSE AMAZING QUALITIES ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE. 

THIS SHOULD SET YOUR ATTITUDE FOR THE WAY YOU CAN SHOW APPRECIATION.

INSTEAD OF “FORCING” OR THINKING TOO HARD ABOUT IT, ALLOW GOD TO BE THE ONE TO GIVE YOU INSIGHT ON THE GREAT QUALITIES OF YOUR SPOUSE, AND WATCH YOU FALL MORE IN LOVE WITH THEM.

WRITE OUT YOUR PRAYERS

THIS IS SOMETHING I DO FOR ALL OF MY PRAYERS BECAUSE I’M ABLE TO GO BACK AND SEE HOW THE LORD ANSWERED SPECIFIC PRAYERS.

SO, WRITING PRAYERS OUT ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE IS IDEAL SO THAT YOU CAN SEE WHERE GOD WAS WORKING SO CLEARLY AND HOW HE PULLED THROUGH FOR YOU.

NOT ONLY THAT, BUT IF YOU WANT TO, YOU CAN EVEN SHARE YOUR PRAYERS WITH YOUR SPOUSE TO LET THEM KNOW HOW YOU WERE PRAYING SPECIFICALLY, AND YOU CAN CELEBRATE TOGETHER ABOUT HOW GOD CAME THROUGH ON THAT PRAYER.

EVEN GIFTING THEM SOMETHING MEANINGFUL (IF THAT’S THEIR LOVE LANGUAGE) WITH THAT ANSWERED PRAYER JOURNAL ATTACHED.

HAVING A SPECIFIC JOURNAL FOR PRAYERS FOR YOUR SPOUSE CAN BECOME SOMETHING SO SPECIAL AND INTIMATE BETWEEN YOU AND GOD, BUT CAN ALSO BE SHARED WITH YOUR SPOUSE.

ASK THEM IF YOU CAN PRAY FOR THEM

THIS MAY SOUND ODD, BECAUSE I KNOW WITH MY SPOUSE, HE’S NOT A MAN OF ASKING OTHERS FOR ANYTHING. 

SO TO OFFER TO PRAY FOR THEM SPECIFICALLY SHOWS YOUR INTENTION OF THEIR DEEPER AND INTERNAL NEEDS. 

SIMPLY ASKING IF YOU CAN PRAY FOR THEM RANDOMLY CAN HELP CHANGE THEIR ATTITUDE OR MOOD. 

WHEN YOU GO INTO PRAYER FOR OUR SPOUSE, PRAY THAT THE LORD WOULD SEE YOUR INTENTION AND BLESS THE MARRIAGE BECAUSE OF IT. 

ALL OF THESE THINGS ARE EASIER SAID THAN DONE DUE TO MARRIAGE HAVING ITS HARD PATCHES, BUT GOD WILL BLESS THE INTENTION OF THE HEART.

VERBALIZE YOUR APPRECIATION

COMMUNICATE ABOUT SPECIFICS 

WHEN WE TRY AND COMMUNICATE ABOUT BROADER TOPICS, THOSE TOPICS CAN BE MISUNDERSTOOD OR MISCONSTRUED. 

SO NARROWING DOWN, EVEN MAKING A LIST, OF THE SPECIFIC REASONS WE APPRECIATE OUR SPOUSE, CAN HELP FOR A WELL COMMUNICATED APPRECIATION. 

WHEN WE UNDERSTAND EVEN 3 THINGS ABOUT WHAT WE APPRECIATE MOST ABOUT OUR SPOUSE, WE’LL BE ABLE TO CONFIDENTLY DELIVER THAT MESSAGE TO THEM.

ASK THEM WHAT MAKES THEM FEEL APPRECIATED

A BIG KEY TO A GROWING MARRIAGE IS COMMUNICATION. 

HOW IS ONE SPOUSE SUPPOSED TO KNOW WHAT THE OTHER PERSON FEELS OR WANTS WITHIN THE MARRIAGE IF THOSE THINGS AREN’T TALKED ABOUT? 

ASKING YOUR SPOUSE WHAT MAKES THEM FEEL MOST APPRECIATED IS HELPFUL FOR BOTH PARTIES. 

THE ONE ASKING THE OTHER SPOUSE CAN FIND OUT INFORMATION ABOUT THEIR SPOUSE THAT THEY DIDN’T KNOW BEFORE, AND TAKING NOTE OF IT TO DO BETTER AT SHOWING APPRECIATION ACCORDING TO THEIR SPOUSE’S NEEDS. 

THE SPOUSE BEING ASKED THE QUESTION CAN REGISTER WHAT DOES INDEED MAKE THEM FEEL APPRECIATED.

HAVING THIS TIME TO REFLECT AND THINK, OPENS UP THE APPRECIATION SWINGING DOOR. 

BRINGING LIGHT TO WHAT THE OTHER SPOUSE DOES TO MAKE THEIR SPOUSE FEEL SPECIAL HELPS THE APPRECIATION TO BE DOUBLE-SIDED.

TALK ABOUT YOUR APPRECIATION FOR THEM AND WHO THEY ARE

I THINK WE CAN GET INTO THIS RUT OF TELLING OUR SPOUSE THAT WE APPRECIATE THEM BECAUSE THEY DO X, Y, AND Z. 

BUT DO WE EVER STOP TO THINK THAT MAYBE WE SHOULD LOOK DEEPER THAN JUST WHAT THEY CAN DO?

WHAT ABOUT WHO THEY ARE AS A PERSON? 

WHY DO WE APPRECIATE THEM BASED OFF OF WHO THEY ARE? 

WHAT ARE SOME CHARACTERISTICS YOU LOVE ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE? 

WHO ARE THEY AS A PERSON AND WHAT DREW YOU TO THEM BEFORE THEY EVER DID A THING FOR YOU?

THOSE ARE THE THINGS WE SHOULD TAKE TIME TO PONDER AND COMMUNICATE ABOUT AND TO OUR SPOUSE.

THIS HELPS TO SHOW UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

CONDITIONAL LOVE SAYS, “I LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU DID OR DO THIS. WHEN YOU DON’T DO THIS THOUGH… I HAVE A HARD TIME LOVING YOU.”

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE SAYS, “EVEN THOUGH YOU’RE FLAWED, I LOVE THE PERSON YOU’RE GROWING TO BE. I LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU HAVE A HEART FOR OTHERS. I LOVE HOW YOU CARE FOR OUR KIDS (OR FUR BABIES). ETC”. 

USE HOLIDAYS AND BIRTHDAYS TO VERBALIZE APPRECIATION

HOLIDAYS AND BIRTHDAYS SHOULDN’T BE THE ONLY TIME WE SHOW APPRECIATION FOR OUR SPOUSE, BUT THEY’RE A GOOD EXCUSE TO GO ABOVE AND BEYOND.

BEING INTENTIONAL AND PLANNING FOR THOSE SPECIAL DAYS IS A GOOD WAY TO REMIND YOUR SPECIAL PERSON THAT THEY’RE THOUGHT OF FREQUENTLY AND THAT THEIR EXISTENCE IS IMPORTANT TO YOU.

MAKE SURE THAT YOUR SPOUSE UNDERSTANDS THAT THIS IS A SPECIAL DAY JUST FOR THEM (THEIR BIRTHDAY OF COURSE). 

AND WHEN IT COMES TO THE HOLIDAY (ANNIVERSARY, CHRISTMAS, VALENTINE’S DAY, ETC.), THOSE ARE THE DAYS YOU CAN BOTH SHOW APPRECIATION FOR EACH OTHER. 

CUSTOMIZING GIFTS SPECIFIED TO THE APPRECIATION OF YOUR SPOUSE, HELPS TO SET THE FOCUS FOR THOSE HOLIDAYS AND THE GIFTS.

Do you ever struggle with showing your spouse how much you appreciate them? Here are some simple ways to show your appreciation today.
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TELL OTHERS ABOUT HOW MUCH YOU APPRECIATE YOUR SPOUSE

THIS IS ONE THAT I HAD A FRIEND RECOMMEND I DO.

I DON’T KNOW WHY I NEVER THOUGHT OF IT BEFORE, BUT IT MAKES A WORLD OF DIFFERENCE. 

WHEN WE START TELLING OTHERS HOW MUCH WE APPRECIATE OUR SPOUSE, THAT LET’S OTHER PEOPLE KNOW ABOUT THE PERSON OUR PARTNER IS. 

IF ALL WE’RE DOING IS TALKING NEGATIVELY ABOUT OUR SPOUSE, IT PROBABLY PUTS A BAD TASTE IN OTHER’S MOUTHS FOR OUR SPOUSE.

IN A MARRIAGE, WE’RE TO BE SURE TO RESPECT EACH OTHER WHETHER WE’RE STANDING NEXT TO EACH OTHER OR NOT. 

REMIND THEM HOW LOVED THEY ARE BY YOU AND JESUS

SAYING “I LOVE YOU” EVEN THOUGH YOUR SPOUSE “ALREADY KNOWS”

FOR ME AND MY HUSBAND, SAYING I LOVE IS KEY IN OUR MARRIAGE.

AFTER A WHILE OF BEING TOGETHER, WE CAN ALMOST GET TOO COMFORTABLE AND ACCEPT THAT ONE LOVES THE OTHER.

THE WORDS MAY RARELY OR AUTOMATICALLY BE SAID BASED OFF OF ROUTINE. 

BUT WHEN WE USE THOSE 3 WORDS, “I LOVE YOU” WITH INTENTION AND REAL PURPOSE EVERY TIME, HOW MUCH CAN THAT CHANGE OUR MARRIAGE?

YES, OUR SPOUSE MAY KNOW THAT WE LOVE THEM, BUT TO HEAR IT CAN CHANGE SOMEONE’S ENTIRE DAY!

TRY IT OUT TODAY.

TELL YOUR SPOUSE, OUT OF THE BLUE AND WITH LOTS OF LOVE AND INTENTION, HOW MUCH YOU LOVE AND APPRECIATION THEM. 

WATCH THEIR MOOD CHANGE. 😉

REMINDING THEM THAT JESUS LOVES THEM HELPS WHEN YOU’RE BOTH HARD TO LOVE

THIS IS KEY!

REGARDLESS OF IF YOU’RE IN THE MIDDLE OF AN ARGUMENT/DISAGREEMENT OR NOT, REMINDING YOUR SPOUSE HOW MUCH GOD LOVES THEM IS CRUCIAL.

I THINK THIS IS ANOTHER ONE OF THOSE THINGS THAT WE KNOW, BUT WE CAN FORGET TO PONDER. 

LETTING YOUR SPOUSE KNOW THAT YOUR HEART IS TO LOVE THEM THE WAY JESUS LOVES THEM, SHOWS YOUR SPOUSE YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF YOUR DOWNFALLS OF TRULY LOVING. 

SHOWING APPRECIATION AND LOVE TO OUR SPOUSE IS WORK.

BUT, WHEN WE LEAN INTO HOW GOD LOVES US PERSONALLY AND THEN PRAY FOR UNDERSTANDING ABOUT HOW TO LOVE OUR SPOUSE, THAT SHOWS OUR SPOUSE THAT WE’RE ATTEMPTING TO BE BETTER.

WHEN OUR SPOUSE KNOWS OUR HEART, AND THEY UNDERSTAND THE PERFECT HEART AND LOVE GOD ALREADY HAS FOR THEM, EACH SPOUSE CAN BEGIN TO GROW IN GRACE FOR EACH OTHER.

REMIND THEM IN LITTLE ACTS OF PERSONALIZED KINDNESS THAT THEY’RE LOVED

THIS IS ONE OF MY FAVORITE THINGS TO DO. 

PERSONALIZING SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR SOMEONE I LOVE. 

MY LOVE LANGUAGE IS TIME SPENT AND GIFT GIVING.

ONE LOVE LANGUAGE (WE’LL GET TO THAT IN A MINUTE) IS GIFT GIVING.

I ALWAYS LOVE A GOOD, WELL THOUGHT OUT GIFT THAT’S BEEN PERSONALIZED FOR ME.

MAKING A HOMEMADE CARD WITH WORDS OF LOVE AND APPRECIATION FOR YOUR SPOUSE IS A SIMPLE, YET THOUGHTFUL GIFT. 

I LOVE THE IDEA OF EVEN POSTING SMALL NOTES OR BIBLE VERSE AROUND THE HOUSE THAT SAYS, “THIS IS WHY I LOVE AND APPRECIATE YOU” OR “THIS IS WHO THE BIBLE SAYS YOU ARE.”  

MAKING THEIR FAVORITE MEAL, WATCHING THEIR FAVORITE MOVIE, PLAYING THEIR FAVORITE GAME, ETC… ALL OF THESE ARE SIMPLE YET SUCH KIND WAYS TO SHOW YOUR SPOUSE HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM.

LEARN MORE ABOUT THEM AND FIND OUT THEIR LOVE LANGUAGE

Do you ever struggle with showing your spouse how much you appreciate them? Here are some simple ways to show your appreciation today.
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SHOW APPRECIATION BY GETTING TO KNOW THEM

I MENTIONED LOVE LANGUAGES AS BEING A WAY TO LEARN MORE ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE. 

MY LOVE LANGUAGE IS GIFT GIVING AND TIME SPENT.

FIND OUT YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE HERE

MY HUSBAND AND I EACH HAVE A WAY OF FEELING MOST LOVED OR SHOWING LOVE AND APPRECIATION.

WE ALL HAVE AN INNATE DESIRE TO BE KNOWN.

I THINK THIS IS A GREAT FIRST STEP TO UNDERSTANDING THE WAY GOD WIRED OUR SPOUSE TO BE. 

ONCE WE HAVE AN IDEA OF HOW THEY BEST FEEL LOVED AND APPRECIATED, THEN IT’S OUR JOB TO MAINTAIN A HEALTHY NURTURING OF THOSE LANGUAGES.

CONTINUOUSLY ACQUAINT YOURSELF WITH YOUR SPOUSE

THIS GOES BACK TO WHEN WE TALKED ABOUT SAYING “I LOVE YOU”.

WE BECOME COMFORTABLE WITH OUR SPOUSE AND FORGET THAT THIS PERSON IS SOMEONE WE’RE SUPPOSED TO GROW WITH. 

GROWING REQUIRES LEARNING NEW THINGS, STRETCHING OUR KNOWLEDGE OF THEM, AND FALLING MORE IN LOVE WITH ONE ANOTHER THROUGHOUT LIFE. 

WHEN WE GET TO A POINT WHERE WE AREN’T LEARNING MUCH ABOUT OUR SPOUSE, THEN WHAT ARE WE DOING?

I THINK BECAUSE WE GROW AS INDIVIDUALS, THERE’S ALWAYS SOMETHING TO LEARN AND UNDERSTAND.

THE WAY THEY FEEL LOVED MAY CHANGE, OR THE WAY THEY FEEL APPRECIATED MAY CHANGE.

MARRIAGE CHANGES AND SO DO PEOPLE WITHIN THE MARRIAGE.

COMMUNICATION AND GAINING UNDERSTANDING ABOUT OUR SPOUSE IS A LIFELONG JOURNEY THAT WE CAN’T SLACK ON.

LEARN ABOUT WHAT THEY LOVE

ASK QUESTIONS ABOUT WHAT THEY LIKE TO DO, WHAT’S SOMETHING NEW THEY’D LIKE TO TRY, WHERE THEY WANT TO GO, ETC. 

EVEN ASKING DEEPER QUESTIONS ABOUT WHAT THEY’RE THINKING ABOUT OR WHERE THEY SEE THE FUTURE OF THE MARRIAGE IN 5 YEARS. 

THOSE KINDS OF QUESTIONS OPEN UP SO MUCH CONVERSATION ABOUT THE MARRIAGE AS A UNIT AS WELL AS INDIVIDUALS.

READ THE BIBLE TO LEARN HOW TO LOVE EACH OTHER WITH THE LOVE OF GOD

THE BEST THING TO DO WITH EACH OTHER AND SHOW APPRECIATION IS TO SHARE, LEARN, AND GROW IN GOD’S LOVE.

READING THE BIBLE TOGETHER HELPS TO STRENGTHEN THE MARRIAGE UNIT. 

GOD GIVES US PERFECT INSTRUCTIONS ON HOW TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER, AND BY READING THE BIBLE TO FIND THAT UNDERSTANDING HELPS THE MARRIAGE GROW STRONGER. 

WHEN WE AIM AS TWO IMPERFECT PEOPLE AT A PERFECT GOD IN HOPES THAT HE’D GIVE US THE INSTRUCTIONS ON HOW TO LOVE EACH OTHER THE RIGHT WAY, THE MARRIAGE FLOURISHES BY GOD’S GRACE AND HELP. 

THE MORE THE BIBLE IS IN US, THE MORE WE’RE ABLE TO LOVE EACH OTHER THE WAY GOD WANTS… UNCONDITIONALLY.

SHOWING APPRECIATION HELPS OUR SPOUSE TO FEEL IMPORTANT, NOTICED, AND WANTED. 

MAKING SURE THAT JESUS IS IN THE MIX, HELPS BOTH TO UNDERSTAND THAT THEY ARE BOTH LOVED REGARDLESS OF HOW THE OTHER MAY OR MAY NOT BE FEELING.

IF WE WANT TO SHOW OUR SPOUSE HOW MUCH WE APPRECIATE AND LOVE THEM, IT’LL TAKE SOME WORK. 

BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY, THE FRUITS OF THE LABOR OF LOVE IS A STRONG, THRIVING AND LOVING MARRIAGE THAT EXEMPLIFIES THE LOVE OF GOD TO OTHERS ON THE OUTSIDE.

HOW DO YOU SHOW LOVE TO YOUR SPOUSE? 

HAVE YOU READ THE LOVE DARE

HOW ABOUT THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES?

TELL ME YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE BELOW.

THANKS FOR STICKING AROUND AND READING!

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