I believe that we need to learn how to grow from failure.
Failure; 1.) the omission of expected or required action 2.) lack of success.
When we fail at something, it’s hard to come to terms with it.
We allow ONE temporal failure to dictate our attitudes and the moments after our time of weakness.
We start believing that we’re losers… like ACTUAL losers.
We allow failure to be our truth.
Whether the failure is at a job, in a relationship, a personal struggle or addiction, or anything that you’re either trying to accomplish or trying to steer away from.
In any of these situations, we may think that we’re a failure, but we can grow from our failure in any and ALL situations.
HERE’S HOW TO GROW FROM FAILURE
We will face failure
Although we know without a shadow of a doubt that we’ll face failure, that doesn’t mean it won’t hurt!
WHEN we face failure, we shouldn’t allow that to define who we are and what we’re capable of.
We’re each growing into the person God is shaping and molding us into, growth through failure is a PROCESS (a series of actions or steps taken in order to achieve a particular end).
We have to accept that we’re going to come up against failure, and it’s going to hurt us!
We have to accept that this is going to happen, but then we have to let it go!
We can grow from failure!
Sitting and wallowing in our regret and shame is only going to waste VERY VALUABLE TIME!
No time for crying about what we did wrong.
Focus on WHAT’S NEXT.
Accepting that we will fail (showing ourselves grace just like God shows us grace) at times, is the first step of how to grow from failure.
Failure isn’t the end result
As believers in Christ, we are already victorious.
Soooo we can live in that freedom of being victors (not losers).
We obviously need to refrain from things that may stumble ourselves or others, but sometimes those slip-ups will happen.
Does that mean that God loves us any less?
He knew we would fail at that moment.
He gives us the way out of temptation, but He doesn’t sit there and say, “Oh my gosh! I can’t believe you did that!!”
No. He says, “Come to me and let me make you clean through my Son.”
How many Christians have you come across that were far from PERFECT?
I know a few (INCLUDING MYSELF) right off the top of my head.
THEY AREN’T EXEMPT FROM FACING FAILURE.
We aren’t called to be perfect.
We’re called to love God and love others, and God will take care of the times we slip up.
Repenting is VITAL here.
We ABSOLUTELY need to allow our hearts to come humbly bowing before God for forgiveness.
God’s more interested in our transformation and the work He’s doing in us, than our sobriety in the things that may be stumbling us or others.
He’s already in the process of healing those issues as we seek Him.
The end result is not us being guilty or being ashamed of our failures.
The end result is to allow God’s perfect work to be completed in us through Jesus’ death and resurrection.
Through this, we become more dependent on Jesus’ righteousness and not our own.
Grace and purpose through failure
After any failure, we feel guilt, shame, embarrassment, disappointment, unworthiness, self-pity.
All of these feelings will lead us into isolation.
Instead of sitting in all of that and replaying our downfall in our minds, we need to be reaching out for the grace of God.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 2 Corinthians 12:9
The enemy wants us to stay down… HECK! He’ll even kick us while we’re down there.
“How are you gonna do God’s work when you keep messing up? You ain’t perfect!”
“You’ll never be GOOD ENOUGH for God. “
“Watch, you’ll be falling again… So what’s the point of even trying and calling out to God?”
“His face is turned away from you and He doesn’t love you anymore.”
“You should just keep things to yourself and start suppressing your issues.”
The enemy seems to forget that he’s on the losing side when he talks to us like this, but I mean he does come to kill (the plan God has for us), steal (our joy and motivation) and destroy (our self-esteem and eagerness to get back up).
BUT… grace is waiting for us RIGHT on the other side of that failure or struggle that seems too hard to let go of.
God’s waiting to forgive, reshape, and correctly guide us into who He’s created us to be.
Cling to God and be busy about His work
I personally find that when I’m not in the Word or sitting and spending time with God REGULARLY, and not living out the purpose He’s set on my life, I’m more prone to failure.
That’s why it’s CRUCIAL that we’re clinging to every word that God speaks through His Word.
Asking Him to speak clearly and to mute any other voice, including our own, so that we can hear His still small voice.
The enemy is at work DAY AND NIGHT trying to take us off course and cause us to fail in ANY capacity.
The minute he sees even the slightest hesitation from us in the right direction, he likes to offer us all the lies on a silver platter.
If we aren’t clinging to God and being busy about God’s work, we’ll eat those lies up like a delicious entree.
The enemy will slip in quickly. if we give him the chance.
That’s why we have to be fervent in our time with the Lord.
I recently slipped up, and I realized that my focus wasn’t on the purpose God has on my life.
My mind was on the temporal and earthly things when they should’ve been on heavenly things (that sounds so “Christian-y” but we as believers are commanded to have this mentality).
We also need to guard ourselves with the armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18)
We must allow God to be our main focus and cling to Him, and leave no room for the flesh to cause us to fail.
A quick recap on how to grow from failure
- Just because we fail sometimes, doesn’t make us losers.
- We can learn from our failures.
- We have to accept that we’ll fail.
- Prepare during stronger times for the weak times (reading the word, communing with God, being around other believers, living your purpose).
- We’re not called to be perfect, just willing to let God make us more like Christ.
- God is waiting patiently to hand us grace.
- We can’t sit in our shame and regret…. “DUST YOURSELF OFF AND TRY AGAIN”
- Cling to God and focus on eternal things instead of temporal earthly things.
- James 4:8 Come near to God and He will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.
Let me know something… how did the Lord speak to you through this post?
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