How many of us allow the needs of others to be priority over ours? Not that we aren’t important as people, but our needs don’t concern us as much as the needs of the ones we love. This is not a bad thing, but we also need to take into consideration our needs as well.
This post is one where I want to let you in on some things I have learned just in the last few years about why it’s so important to care of yourself in mind, body and spirit.
Top 3 Self Care Tips
1. Alone Time with God
I have mentioned before that I grew up in a big family and alone time wasn’t really a thing. As I grew older, made some friends, had hang out sessions regularly, I found that I desired alone time A LOT. I realized that I wasn’t allowing myself time to think my own thoughts, but only thinking about the thoughts of others. I never allowed myself to just sit with my thoughts and decide for myself what I wanted to do. Once I started allowing myself alone time, I began focusing on the things that I was actually supposed to be doing in life. I’m not saying that time with friends and family is bad (heck to the no!), I’m saying that once I sat down with myself, things got quiet. I was able to sort through my thoughts, feelings and ideas apart from everyone else’s. Yes, the opinion and ideas of others matter, but you can discard them if you want to and do what you know you are to be doing. Alone time for me is a way to silence the white noise of life and listen only to what God had to say.
2. Mental Health & Clarity are Key
The mentality aspect of the self is a very intriguing part of us humans. My mom taught my siblings and I that the mind is the devil’s playground if you let him. I don’t like the idea, but I do understand what she’s talking about. Yes, I love alone time, but too much alone time can cause some mental wandering, which isn’t always good. You see, I had never in my life dealt with depression until a few years back. I thought it was something that could be controlled, but sometimes, there are days when I can’t tell which way is up. Now, my mental health is something that is in the healing stage WHEN I ALLOW IT. Through prayer, time with Jesus in His word, and being outside, I am able to key in on my purpose, calling and role in the season I am in. Mental health is no joke when there are underlying issues. Something that pushes me to gain mental wellness and clarity, is my family. I want to be well for me so that I can be there for my family. Our mental health impacts each and every person we encounter. My question to you is how are you taking care of yours today? Mental health is just as important as physical health….
3. Physical Health is Good for the Heart
Mental health and physical health are very important for everyone, young or old. I know I am not old, but I am growing older. I struggle with the physical health aspect of my life at this point in time. With the psychologically abusive relationship I dealt with a few years ago, my physical health declined rapidly. I went from a whopping 116 lbs to…. let’s just say, my face got rounder and so did everything else lol. I can’t blame everything on that point in time, because I have to make the decision to be healthy first for myself so that I can be there for others. Also, I have a brand new nephew on the way. If I can’t walk up 5 stairs without being winded, what in the world makes me think that I can run around and play with a little nephew!! I do struggle with the exercising and dieting part, BUT who doesn’t? My tip; eat things that you don’t normally eat (fruits, veggies…. less sugar and carbs), drink a lot of water instead of soda and juices, and move around for at least 30 minutes a day. That’s what I am working at, and it helps take the pressure off of getting that summer bod THIS SUMMER. Maybe next summer, which is fine too. Don’t stress yourself out over it.
I think overall, the lesson that I learned from it all is that it’s my choice to take care of me. Am I going to have my alone time to recharge so that I can be refreshed spiritually? Am I going to allow the Lord to take every thought captive so that I don’t slip into bouts of depression or doubts of who I am? Am I going to move a little bit each day instead of sitting on my phone for hours? These are questions we all need to ask ourselves as we are seeing this “self-caring” idea becoming so popular these days. Let’s not focus on the materialistic things that we can attain, but things that are going to benefit us health wise on all levels so that we are able to have intentional relationships with everyone!
Also, check out this beautiful put blog post about the truth about self care for more about self care.